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| What the Questionnaire Measures | ||||
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The RDQ questionnaire assesses twelve critical skills that men and women need to develop to manage and sustain successful lifelong relationships. These are summarized in the table below. |
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| DIMENSION | PARTNER'S BEHAVIORS | DESIRABLE QUALITIES | ||
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Autonomy | Your partner allows you plenty of freedom, respects your need for occasional privacy, provides support and respects differences. | Patient, understanding, tolerant, supportive. |
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| Control | Your partner shares influence and control with you. He/she does not try to run the show in the relationship nor boss you around. | Positive, enthusiastic, attentive, accommodating. | ||
| Commitment | Your partner shows commitment, acts as if he/she wants the relationship to succeed and compromises to make things work. | Committed, hard-working, unselfish, adaptable. | ||
| Relatedness | Your partner senses your feelings, shows interest in your concerns, acts like your best friend and makes you laugh. | Warm, sensitive, understanding, fun-loving. | ||
| Responsibilities | Your partner does equal share of housework, values your contribution to the relationship and gives you extra support when you ask for it. | Conscientious, energetic, organised, supportive. | ||
| Communication | Your partner expresses his/her feelings and emotions, listens to your views and opinions and gives you positive feedback. | Considerate, thoughtful, chatty, sincere. | ||
| Agreements | Your partner agrees with you about priorities and lifestyle choices – for example, money, friends, leisure, in-laws - and knows how to manage disagreements effectively. | Willing to compromise and negotiate, adaptable. | ||
| Conflict Resolution | Your partner accepts that it is okay to disagree, knows when to back off and forgives you quickly after arguments. | Patient, tolerant, flexible, emotionally intelligent. | ||
| Attraction | Your partner finds you physically attractive, compliments you about your looks and says you turn him/her on. | Charming, engaging, flirtatious, reassuring. | ||
| Affection | Your partner displays affection and appreciation, is thoughtful and considerate and keeps his/her promises. | Demonstrative, considerate, appreciative. | ||
| Romance | Your partner buys you presents, remembers important events and talks passionately about your relationship. | Idealistic, amorous, romantic, passionate. | ||
| Sex | Your partner enjoys having sex with you, is a good lover to you, communicates his/her desires and makes you feel loved. | Interested, responsive, communicative, loving. | ||
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