improve your relationship

Good relationships are good for you. People in supportive, loving relationships are more likely to feel healthier, happier and satisfied with their lives and less likely to have mental or physical health problems. Most people want to have a stable long-term relationship but the statistics show that it is difficult to achieve.  One in three first marriages ends in divorce as do two in three second marriages. Recovery from a marital/relationship breakdown is usually slow.

It often takes two to three years for a couple whose relationship has broken up to put their lives back together again. After splitting up, many people say they wish they hadn't. Four out of ten people regret their divorce five years later and say with hindsight that they think it could have been avoided.

How could divorce have been avoided? We think a successful marriage or partnership requires knowledge and skills about how to create and sustain a stable relationship. We developed the Relationship Diagnostic Questionnaire to help couples develop these skills - skills that will improve and enrich their relationships. 

Our research with thousands of couples from countries across the globe reveals that there are two groups of critical success factors in a relationship. One group of factors is about things such as attraction, affection, romance and sex - the things that initially draw people together. The second group  covers relationship handling skills, skills such as control, commitment, communication, conflict resolution and sharing of responsibilities, the factors that help build trust in marriage.

The RDQ questionnaire is a scientifically validated instrument that measures the quality of a couple's relationship by comparing their satisfaction ratings with thousands of other people who have completed the questionnaire. It can be taken on its own or used in conjunction with marital counselling. It gives relationships advice and tips based on an analysis of how far the factors below are present in your relationship. 

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